Why women have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on since millennium. Affairs can be fraught with problems, cause misery, and other troubles. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness issue, funds, age difference, faith upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, adult dating for merried.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking an affair. I think generally though it is just the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to turn the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but society also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your relatives or anybody else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major grouping, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a frequent cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a man I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply developed separately, our general interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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